I just blocked several people who, for various reasons, no longer please me.
It is weird how facebook imitates life. If I'm not facebook friends with someone, it's often a good indication of how deeply I feel about our real-life friendship. And if I un-friend or (even worse) block you... That means that I am erasing you from my memory altogether.
Yes, it's a bad thing when modern technology becomes so imbedded in our everyday lives. No, real friendships shouldn't be qualified by ties on facebook. BUT thank you facebook. Thank you kindly for allowing me to entirely forget people who upset me.
Among my favorite American films is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. The film was somewhat didactic about the issue of forgetting loved ones-- how memories are precious. Part of me is a little anxious about the un-friend/block features, the wholesale end to a friendship. But at the same time, I feel empowered when I make the choice to no longer connect with the people I find offensive.
When I was in China, people often told me 你想太多 (You think too much). But I would be terribly unhappy in a world where facebook's un-friend and block features had no emotional or social significance.
(Cheers to my first blog without profanity~ How adult I've become writing this blog for no one.)
M!
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